ACOA LAUNDRY LIST PDF

What are the Common Struggles of Children of an Alcoholic? Adult children of alcoholics meetings provide an opportunity for such individuals to share their traumatic experiences in a safe, non-judgmental environment. The ACOA organization believes a sharing of experiences is essential for affected individuals to heal from the trauma, break free from children of alcoholics symptoms, and become a loving parent to their children. In addition to meetings in communities nationwide, for the sake of convenience, the organization also offers ACOA online meetings and telephone meetings.

Author:Akinogul Zulumuro
Country:Armenia
Language:English (Spanish)
Genre:Life
Published (Last):26 November 2005
Pages:16
PDF File Size:6.83 Mb
ePub File Size:6.99 Mb
ISBN:920-2-61001-354-6
Downloads:77619
Price:Free* [*Free Regsitration Required]
Uploader:Dagami



We confuse our co-workers with our siblings or our alcoholic parent s and repeat childhood reactions in those working relationships. We expect lavish praise and acknowledgment from our boss for our efforts on the job. Authority figures scare us and we feel afraid when we need to talk to them.

We lose our temper when things upset us rather than dealing with problems productively. We can get hurt feelings when co-workers do things socially together without asking us, even though we have not made an effort to get to know them and join in the social life.

We are afraid to make the first move to get to know a co-worker better, thinking they will not like us or approve of us. We usually do not know how to ask for what we want or need on the job, even for little things.

We do not know how to speak up for ourselves when someone has said or done something inappropriate. We try desperately to avoid face-to-face confrontations. We are sensitive and can get extremely upset with any form of criticism of our work. We want to be in charge of every project or activity, feeling more comfortable when we are in control of every detail, rather than letting others be responsible. We do not know how to be assertive in getting our needs met or expressing a concern.

We may have to repeatedly rehearse our comments before delivering them. We have felt that we do not deserve a raise, promotion, better workspace, or a better job. We do not know how to set boundaries, and we let others interrupt us. We are perfectionists about our own work and expect others to be the same and have the same work ethics and values. We become workaholics because it gives us a feeling of self-worth we did not get as a child.

We may jump from job to job, looking for the perfect position as the substitute for the secure and nurturing home environment we did not have.

We get upset when people do things that affect us or our work without asking us first. We have a high tolerance for workplace dysfunction and tend to stick it out in an unhappy job because we lack the self-esteem to leave.

ENCYKLOPEDIA PEDAGOGICZNA XXI WIEKU TOM 5 PDF

The Problem

We meet to share our experience of growing up in an environment where abuse, neglect and trauma infected us. This affects us today and influences how we deal with all aspects of our lives. ACA provides a safe, nonjudgmental environment that allows us to grieve our childhoods and conduct an honest inventory of ourselves and our family—so we may i identify and heal core trauma, ii experience freedom from shame and abandonment, and iii become our own loving parents. If you identify with any of these Traits, you may find a home in our Program. We welcome you.

ASSIMIL NORWEGISCH OHNE MHE PDF

The Workplace Laundry List

To avoid becoming enmeshed and entangled with other people and losing ourselves in the process, we become rigidly self-sufficient. We disdain the approval of others. We frighten people with our anger and threat of belittling criticism. We dominate others and abandon them before they can abandon us or we avoid relationships with dependent people altogether. To avoid being hurt, we isolate and dissociate and thereby abandon ourselves. We live life from the standpoint of a victimizer, and are attracted to people we can manipulate and control in our important relationships. We are irresponsible and self-centered.

IRFP450 DATASHEET PDF

Laundry List

Select Page The Problem Many of us found that we had several characteristics in common as a result of being brought up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional household. We had come to feel isolated and uneasy with other people, especially authority figures. To protect ourselves, we became people-pleasers, even though we lost our own identities in the process. All the same we would mistake any personal criticism as a threat. We either became alcoholics or practiced other addictive behavior ourselves, or married them, or both. Failing that, we found other compulsive personalities, such as a workaholic, to fulfill our sick need for abandonment.

ELEKTRONINES KNYGOS PDF

Adult Children Of Alcoholics (ACOA)

We confuse our co-workers with our siblings or our alcoholic parent s and repeat childhood reactions in those working relationships. We expect lavish praise and acknowledgment from our boss for our efforts on the job. Authority figures scare us and we feel afraid when we need to talk to them. We lose our temper when things upset us rather than dealing with problems productively. We can get hurt feelings when co-workers do things socially together without asking us, even though we have not made an effort to get to know them and join in the social life. We are afraid to make the first move to get to know a co-worker better, thinking they will not like us or approve of us. We usually do not know how to ask for what we want or need on the job, even for little things.

Related Articles