There are not a of "new" ideas in this book - in fact much of it is based on Buddhist teachings - but the value is in the way he presents the material. First of all each chapter is relatively short, keeping things fairly succinct. He grabs your attention first by describing your thoughts. Thats right. He gives examples of the many internal monologues and conversations we hold in our heads. He hits them dead on.
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Having read a lot of spiritual and mystical biographies, he decided to find a way to make those teachings applicable to work and to the corporate world. For those who are skeptical of his teachings, he simply asks them to complete the exercises and apply the concepts for a period of time, and then to evaluate whether their lives have improved. Rao to his MBA students. The resources used to write this post include excerpts from Dr.
Rao which I found online, a video from the TED. Rao, is an underlying sense of well-being. In addition, he explains that this is our natural state of being, but we obscure it by thinking that something external has to happen in order for us to be happy.
Take out a piece of a paper and ask yourself what you need in order to be happy. Really think about it. Then, begin writing. You might find that you write down things such as those included in the list below.
I find a life partner. I have a child. I change jobs, or I get a promotion. I have more leisure time. I lose weight. I get to go on vacation to Paris. I get recognition for my work. My book gets published. I move to a bigger apartment. My child starts doing better in school. My spouse gets a job. All my debts are finally paid off.
Then get a red marker. Do this with all of the items you wrote down. Rao explains that there is nothing you have to get in order to be happy. That is, you can lose it. Are you going to make your happiness contingent on getting something you may or may not get, and which you might lose once you get it? Happiness does not have to be acquired or achieved. When asked whether people should set goals, Dr. Rao responds that goals are important, because they give direction to your life. Rao adds that what matters is the process of working toward the achievement of your goals, not the outcome.
In addition, Dr. Rao Dr. Rao gives four reasons for his recommendation. That is, if you think of losing your job as an opportunity, your mind will get to work on looking for evidence that this is true. Maybe you had your heard broken by someone, only to meet someone who was much more compatible for you a few months later.
When we tell ourselves that something is bad, the odds grow overwhelmingly that we will experience it as such. As an example, Dr. Rao tells the story of one of his students who had his cell phone stolen in the subway. Initially, the student started telling himself that this was a very bad situation to be in, and he felt upset and angry.
Once he stopped doing this he thought of how lucky he was that his financial circumstances were such that he could easily afford to replace his cell phone, and this made him feel immense gratitude. They simply take it as a given as if they were a civil engineer surveying the landscape through which a road is to be built.
In this view, a swamp is not a bad thing. It is merely something that has to be addressed in the construction plan. Think of a mouse running through a maze looking for cheese.
If the mouse finds the path blocked by a wall, he simply turns around and looks for a different route. Rao advocates something which he calls extreme resiliency: every time you fall, bounce back up immediately and keep going. Rao explains that your mental chatter, or internal monologue, is your constant companion. For many people, this mental chatter includes a lot of negative judgments, about themselves and about others.
The tool which Dr. Do the following: Record your mental chatter, both positive and negative, throughout the day. Be as specific as possible. How many times do you beat yourself up during the day? Do you compare yourself unfavorably to others?
Do you have feelings of inadequacy? Are you constantly thinking critical thoughts of others? Remember to write down your positive thoughts as well. In addition, as you record your mental chatter, pay close attention to how your emotional state is tied to it. Which thoughts make you feel sad, angry, afraid, or dissatisfied?
Which thoughts make you feel confident, peaceful, or grateful? Also, notice how your emotional state affects your behavior. Write all of this down in your notebook. This process of paying attention to your inner monologue will gradually make you more and more aware of it. Alternate Reality Exercise For the alternate reality exercise, Dr. Rao has his students describe in detail a situation which is concerning them.
This can be something at work or something in their personal lives. With the help of other students in the class, Dr. Rao then has them construct a different reality: one that is better for them and which they can get themselves to believe at some level.
Little by little, more supportive evidence starts to show up. This is because we see what we focus on. In addition, the universe conspires to bring people and situations to us that support our model of the world. And since the alternate reality is better for them, their quality of life improves. Conclusion Dr. And that vision is that you get up each morning and your blood is singing at the thought of being who you are, and doing what you do.
That as you go through your day you can literally sink to your knees in gratitude at the tremendous good fortune that has been bestowed on you.
That as you go through your day you become radiantly alive. Related Posts:.
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